Worldwide Family Events
By GulfStreamBlues on Tuesday, June 24 2008, 15:09 - Permalink
I’ve returned from my intensive week of
ceremonies, back in London but quite exhausted from moving around so much.
Though I’m disappointed to have been in the US during all of the
post-Ireland-referendum-panic last week, perhaps it was for the best. After all,
it was good to get away and get a little perspective during the very heated
debate that’s been taking place.
But this I can report: as with most EU
matters, no one in the US is even vaguely aware of what’s going on with the
Ireland referendum or with the Lisbon reform treaty in general, as it has
received basically zero media coverage. As they were largely not paying
attention to its formation, Americans would most likely not be closely watching
the EU’s disintegration either.
I started my travels Friday the 13th when I flew to Zurich for my
youngest brother’s high school graduation ceremony on Saturday. My family moved
to Switzerland two years ago from the New York area, and my youngest brother
went with them and finished high school at an international school there. It was
a beautiful day for it, held at a reception hall on a hilltop overlooking the
lake. The ceremony was long, but very interesting. After the keynote speech,
performances and bestowing of a seemingly endless litany of awards, we finally
got to the presentation of the diplomas. However when they started my family and
I all gave each other a pained look when we realized that they would be reading
a three-minute long bio for each of the students before they handed them their
diplomas. With 86 graduating students, we knew we were still going to be there
for awhile!
However it actually turned out to be really interesting. If they
had done that at my high school graduation in Connecticut I think people would
have just left. After all, those bios would all start sounding pretty similar
after awhile! But the bios for the kids at this international school were
actually quite interesting. For each kid the told you which country or countries
they were a citizen of (surprisingly a majority of the kids had dual
citizenship), where they had lived before coming to Zurich, what they did while
they were there and where they were going to after that. The bios were
incredibly varied. Particularly interesting was the fact that there didn’t seem
to necessarily be a correlation between the country the kid came from and the
country the kid was going to university in (except for Americans). They had a
flag for each country a student was from going around the hall on the wall. I
enjoyed trying to find the flag each time they said a student's
citizenship.
Also interesting was the way the bios highlighted the difference
between the American and European education systems. While the kids going to
American universities were “going to attend,” the kids going to British or
continental European universities were “hoping to attend,” because European
universities still wouldn’t have made acceptance decisions by June. Also, there
was a sizable number of kids who were taking a gap year, doing their year of
military service (required for countries such as Israel and Switzerland) or
something other than university. In fact, I could say almost half of the
students weren’t going directly to university after the graduation. This was a
stark contrast to the US, where gap years are very uncommon. I remember that
when I graduated high school in suburban Connecticut, 94 percent of the students
were going directly to college the next year. I have to say I think the European
system makes much more sense.
It was cool to be in Zurich while the Euro 2008 games are happening
in Switzerland. On Friday night there was the Italy-Romania game in Zurich, and
after that we went to the fan zone to watch the France-Holland game. The whole
city was decked out for the games, with even a massive circle of statues in the
Hauptbahnoff with major players from each of the teams. That was I wasn't
expecting to see! Sunday night I watched Switzerland's last game on the monitors
set up in the city center (they were already out of the running by that point).
Although they won the game, there wasn't much celebration that went on. But
after Turkey won the later game, it was quite a different story. I happened to
be on Longstrasse, which is a pretty Turkish neighborhood, when they won. First
they all started driving up and down the street honking their horns and waving
Turkish flags, then they all poured out into the street dancing and singing. The
following week, when I was in Boston Friday night, Turkey won another game and
this time they were driving up and down Newbury Street where I was eating
dinner, honking their horns and waving their flags. It amused me that the same
thing would happen all over the world. But what amused me more was that nobody
had any idea what was going on, since Americans don't follow the Euro
championship. Everyone in the outdoor section of the restaurant I was at seemed
quite alarmed. I told my friends we should tell them all that Turkey just
invaded Greece.
My whole family flew together from Zurich to New York on Monday, in
preparation for my other brother’s wedding in Boston the next weekend. They
headed up to our house in Connecticut to get ready and I stayed in New York to
see my friends and work two days in my company’s New York office. I was a little
nervous about this time spent in New York, because each time I went back to New
York for a visit last year something disastrous happened. The cumulative effect
was that I finished out last year absolutely loathing that city where I had
previously lived for so many years, and I had even thought about just going
straight to Boston and not even spending any time in New York. But actually it
was a quite pleasant few days. I was able to see most of my friends, and made it
through unscathed. There was even an hour or two when I was walking in the West
Village and remembered what it was I had liked about the city. Don’t get me
wrong, there still wasn’t even a small part of me that wanted to move back. But,
perhaps it isn’t as awful as all that. It has some redeeming
qualities.
On Thursday we drove up to Boston to prepare for the wedding. My
sister-in-law grew up outside Boston on the South Shore, in a really nice little
town right on the water. I went into the city on Friday and Saturday and stayed
with my friend Marc in Cambridge. I lived in Boston for a year back in 1999,
during my freshman year at college when I attended Emerson University, which is
right on Boston Common. I had a great time there but the school wasn’t
academically challenging enough, so I transferred to New York University after
that, and hadn’t been back to Boston since 2000 believe it or not.
It’s changed significantly since I left. The Big Dig is complete so
the major traffic problems that were plaguing the city when I lived there are
for the most part resolved. Actually when I was there walking around it hit me
just how little I got to know the city when I lived there. In fact I’d say the
only part I’m really familiar with are the couple blocks around Boston Common.
This is funny since with every city I’ve moved to since then (and there have
been a lot), I’ve made an almost obsessive effort to get to know the city in and
out before I go, studying the map and trying to walk my way around the entire
place. I think it didn’t occur to me to do that in Boston coming as I did from
suburban Connecticut. After all, who would look at a map in the ‘burbs? I
suppose I just followed other people around, so very unlike me today!
The wedding went very well. It was beautiful weather and everything
went off without a hitch, bride and groom remaining in very good spirits. It was
pretty intense seeing my brother get married, especially since 25 is a
relatively young age to get married where I come from (as opposed to the South
where they marry at 18). This was the first time I’ve been in a wedding party,
it was a lot of work! But good to keep occupied, otherwise you’re just sitting
in that church forever doing nothing. I think a particularly poignant moment
came in the ceremony during the vows. My brother’s new mother-in-law is deaf,
and so both he and his wife Natalie used sign language to say their vows to each
other. He seemed to get it right, although I would have no way of knowing if he
screwed up! It was a very touching moment.
As if all these ceremonies weren’t emotional enough, the next day
me and my dad dropped my youngest brother off at his dorm for college! Granted
we were just dropping him off for orientation, which fortuitously happened to
start two days after the wedding in Boston. He’s going to Suffolk University,
which coincidentally is right next to Emerson College on Boston Common. In fact
his dorm is right next to my freshman year dorm (pictured). For me and my dad,
who will both be in Europe when he gets dropped off to start college for real in
September, this was effectively the “college drop off” moment. I found myself
getting a little sentimental, and then was amused because I remembered when my
parents dropped me off for college in the next building over just nine years
ago, and my mom was tearing up. At the time I thought, man what’s the big deal?
Now I know!So now I’m back in London, and quite exhausted. It’s good to be back.
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